Wednesday, 2 January 2019

Can Marriage Or Relationship Counselling Help Us?

Marriage or relationship counselling can be a great help if you are going through problems in your relationship. To get to the point of needing this type of counselling often takes some soul searching in the first place and admitting that there is a problem is a step in the right direction.  Once that is done then counselling can really help. Here are some reasons when marriage or relationship counselling can help you both.

1. When arguments are getting frequent



If you notice that there is a lot of conflict happening in a relationship and when arguments are getting more frequent and becoming difficult to resolve then having an impartial third party there to air your disputes can help. Sometimes during a conflict, one person can blank the other one, say hurtful things, or even become aggressive. Relationship counselling can help deal with these issues.

2. When communication is a problem

As well as conflict, communication can be a problem if you feel like no one is listening to you, or you feel ignored.  Maybe you feel like your partner isn't talking to you and they won't open up. When communication is a problem, having a safe and trusting environment as you do a marriage or relationship counselling session, can really help people open up and talk.

3. When there is a trust issue

If there has been a trust issue, for example, an affair, lies about something or deception about money, then trust may be broken and may be difficult to build back up. A skilled marriage or relationship counsellor can help you work through these issues and help rebuild trust.  

4. When there is something you need to tell the other person

In a safe and supportive environment of a marriage or relationship counselling session, you may feel that you can tell the other person the thing that has been worrying you. A counsellor can help you deal with any fallout from this. 

5. When you've gone through a trauma or loss



If you have gone through something that is traumatic and it had affected your relationship then relationship counselling can really help.  In life, sometimes devastating things happen, such as the death of a child, a diagnosis of a life-threatening illness, or a car accident that has affected your health.  Maybe you have lost a job and been unemployed for a long time, or your family have disowned you. There are many reasons for trauma or loss and when it affects how you communicate as a couple then its time to seek help.

6. When intimacy is gone

If you feel no spark any more, maybe you've slowly grown apart, then marriage counselling can help. It can help you reevaluate your relationship and allow you to talk about this problem.  Marriage counselling can help you prioritise time together, whether you have problems with physical or emotional intimacy. 

7. When patterns of behaviour are difficult

If you feel the other person behaves in a difficult way, perhaps they drink too much, they don't help with childcare or chores around the house, maybe they don't accept a step-child, or they behave disrespectfully towards relatives then these are issues that can cause resentment. Relationship counselling can put a spotlight on these dysfunctional patterns of behaviour, look at the reasons why and see if there are ways of changing.

As you can see marriage or relationship counselling can really help strengthen a relationship and even be a catalyst in preventing divorce.  Read more about marriage counselling in this article Confidentiality - should I seek marriage counselling near me.

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12 comments

  1. I definitely think it's worth a try! You don't know unless you try. x

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  2. I always think it is worth a try so then you can say "well we gave it ago"

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    1. It can definitely be worth trying to save a relationship.

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  3. I've never been for relationshsip counselling but I'd would if we ever needed to, I think it is so important to try your hardest to fix whatever is wrong. Mich x

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    1. There is help out there for people, and many don't realise it.

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  4. I think all relationships need work and marriage counselling can help when communication barriers break down

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  5. I do think it's good when communication is tricky as sometimes it might be that you both think one of you feels something and you're both wrong x

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  6. I think if you are in a point in a relationship where perhaps you are struggling then having a neutral place where you can open and talking with someone outside could really work. I’ve been with my husband for 5 years and we’ve come through a lot but luckily always stayed and worked things out together

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    1. Communication is the key in relationships, and a little give and take in my opinion.

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  7. I have never been to relationship counselling, so I cannot say whether it would or wouldn't. I think all couples, or most couples can be very different and handle situations in different ways. However, if there is no communication or trust, I think there is some serious damage there. How to come back from a situ like that? I think all comes down to the person themselves.

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    1. I think counselling can help facilitate communication between a couple, and that must be a good thing.

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