tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post300764025657014639..comments2024-03-29T10:24:15.065+00:00Comments on The Diary Of A Jewellery Lover: Depression and Suicide - Please Ask For HelpMellissa Williamshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-41927945723486960242014-03-18T12:49:52.899+00:002014-03-18T12:49:52.899+00:00Thank you for commenting Emma, I so hope that you ...Thank you for commenting Emma, I so hope that you feel better now, hugs xxxMellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-57393691029629013182014-03-18T12:44:09.856+00:002014-03-18T12:44:09.856+00:00What a beautifully written post - I too understand...What a beautifully written post - I too understand - I did try to take my own life, I am still somewhat angry that those who say loved me where not there did not see and didn't know what to do. Mental illness is a killer.Emma Whitehttp://parentingandmentalhealth.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-9116746615645558582014-03-18T07:06:44.118+00:002014-03-18T07:06:44.118+00:00Thanks for your comment, depression is a terrible ...Thanks for your comment, depression is a terrible illness. I am glad you feel this is worth reading and commenting on.Mellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-47581235502390768482014-03-17T21:25:33.186+00:002014-03-17T21:25:33.186+00:00It's so true. We can be so far into our owns h...It's so true. We can be so far into our owns heads in these times that there is nothing else to think about. There's no room for consequences or the feelings of others, it's horribly selfish but it's all about making everything stop. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing this and I'm glad to have found it through the mental health weekly round up. <br /><br />~ K ~ Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00442431798716355494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-16268982146231907322014-01-02T18:21:01.654+00:002014-01-02T18:21:01.654+00:00I agree - just being there for them if and when th...I agree - just being there for them if and when they need is can help. Thank you for you commentMellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-82416604796578370012014-01-02T12:01:58.981+00:002014-01-02T12:01:58.981+00:00Thank you for this blog post. Its very good for us...Thank you for this blog post. Its very good for us to all realise that there are people around us who are feeling like this. <br /><br />If someone close to you does end up killing themselves its also very important to remember that often there may have been nothing you could do or say to help. A friend of mine knew he was loved by his friends and family yet still it was too much and he took his own life. <br /><br />Sometimes all we can do when someone is feeling that low is just to let them know we care for them and we are there for them if/when they need it. <br /><br />jrandrews72https://www.blogger.com/profile/14579715556992541716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-72289234096463071842013-11-12T22:15:13.303+00:002013-11-12T22:15:13.303+00:00Thank you for commenting Victoria. I really apprec...Thank you for commenting Victoria. I really appreciate it. I am sorry about your Auntie. Depression is an awful illness.Mellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-88941217475784112332013-11-12T14:32:22.098+00:002013-11-12T14:32:22.098+00:00This is such a difficult subject. My Auntie commit...This is such a difficult subject. My Auntie committed suicide. She was estranged from all of her family when I was just a child but, as I have got older I know I would have gone to find her - it was her who ignited my interest in horses. I wish she had spoken to us, she must have felt so lonely.Thank you for linking to PoCoLo xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17488151945036286537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-84962798965797887902013-11-08T12:18:37.970+00:002013-11-08T12:18:37.970+00:00When you are feeling so low please talk to someone...When you are feeling so low please talk to someone like the Samaritans - they can listen and accept you for what you are. Please seek help in these times. ** Hugs **Mellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-8871761983054473822013-11-08T12:16:02.379+00:002013-11-08T12:16:02.379+00:00Thank you for sharing your experiences and in part...Thank you for sharing your experiences and in particular of group therapy. I used to be a psychiatric nurse so now how well this can work. Building your coping mechanisms can help.<br />We do need to speak out about mental health issues so often it is swept under the carpet and not spoken about. Thank you for commenting.Mellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-41384229358759854362013-11-08T12:03:07.004+00:002013-11-08T12:03:07.004+00:00not all depression is diagnosed properly either......not all depression is diagnosed properly either... I have fibromyalgia anyway which cites depression as part of that condition. As such the doctors turned me away saying that nothing more could be done as I was "being medicated" for it through the fibro meds. It took almost losing my daughter to cancer for people to realise that I never ever spoke about how I felt towards life and living or about the guilt I carry around for wanting to end my pain when I have 2 beautiful daughters and now 2 fabulous grandchildren to live for...I haven't tried yet and not sure that I would because I have these people but it doesn't mean there is anyone to talk to...I cannot and will not place this burden on them when they all carry so much knowing we will lose my eldest at some point before her timeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-80581294549597859312013-11-08T11:59:55.227+00:002013-11-08T11:59:55.227+00:00I've suffered with depression for many years, ...I've suffered with depression for many years, and have put my family through the heartache of serious overdoses in a way to end it all. It took 13 years to finally be diagnosed with PTSD due to a traumatic childhood and finally get the help I had been seeking. <br /><br />MIND are a fantastic support for people like myself. But for me I found that the best therapy was actually Group Therapy. I was very unwilling at first to attend as I thought it would be just us talking about how poop our lives were - but it was actually a life skills and how to cope as our coping mechanisms are a little screwy! <br /><br />It's taken 1 long year so far to finish the first part of my therapy but I now have the skills in place to not go and hide in the bathroom to self harm, but to carry on even though I'm breaking inside and everything is bleak. Depression and other mental illnesses are not spoken about widely enough, and the stigma attached to them is horrendous. It's taken me 3 years to open my curtains and to go to the shops without fear. <br /><br />I still have bad days, don't get me wrong, and I accept that I probably always will. But in my darkest moments I couldn't see what I had or who was there for me. All I wanted was to end the incessant pain and be at peace. Those that count are still by my side, but they are very few. <br /><br />Sending you hugs as I read your post and also thanking you for speaking out. We need to speak out and stop the stigma that prevents so many people from seeking help. I am fortunate enough to have a fantastic boss, who understands my bad days - as I work from home (I was too scared to apply for jobs once I was diagnosed as I thought I would be unemployable) in a flexible role she has been a great support! and I am fortunate enough to have a strong husband and children, who understand that some days are still a struggle and not to push me too hard. <br /><br />xxxKristy Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01463075567911243081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-2637341826329451662013-11-08T11:23:45.340+00:002013-11-08T11:23:45.340+00:00Thank you for commenting. People can help. You are...Thank you for commenting. People can help. You are not alone even if you feel like it.Mellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-41873488683310548692013-11-08T11:22:43.429+00:002013-11-08T11:22:43.429+00:00I really feel for you Julie. It must have been awf...I really feel for you Julie. It must have been awful, my heart goes out to you. Mellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-86526993282758920732013-11-08T10:07:37.635+00:002013-11-08T10:07:37.635+00:00What an amazing post and I truly hope this post he...What an amazing post and I truly hope this post helps someone. I won't speak about my own personal experience with suicide as it's not my story and I am still traumatised by what happened, but it helps to know there are others out there who can identify and help. #pocoloWicked World of Lucashttp://www.wickedworldoflucas.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-30847556101795540112013-11-07T21:41:39.958+00:002013-11-07T21:41:39.958+00:00Hiya Mel. Firstly *huge hugs*
I have been "t...Hiya Mel. Firstly *huge hugs* <br />I have been "there" I've wanted to and tried to die. To end everything, to make it stop. More than once. <br />I think it makes me sound awful but I did consider my family, and it still seemed the best action to take at those times. One time (where I planned to get run over. Double decker bus route on blind corner) I'd packed Jen's buggy bag with milk, nappies, then medical records, birth cert to prove id, a few dats clothing and favourite belongings. I put his buggy brakes on, facing away from road near a church and walked out. Eyes closed. It missed :-/ at this point doctors insisted I didn't have pnd. Julie roohttp://juliesnotebook.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-88482742712349908002013-11-07T15:42:53.830+00:002013-11-07T15:42:53.830+00:00Thank you for sharing your experiences xxxThank you for sharing your experiences xxxMellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-15656597929720295652013-11-07T15:42:22.230+00:002013-11-07T15:42:22.230+00:00Good point Agata we do.Good point Agata we do.Mellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-28330742256611876092013-11-07T15:42:02.131+00:002013-11-07T15:42:02.131+00:00You are right depression is an illness and there a...You are right depression is an illness and there are two types endogenous depression and reactive depression. A physical illness is easy to see a mental illness you cannot. People feel at easy and offer empathy to those with a physical illness. Mellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-32255029339367499202013-11-07T15:04:20.701+00:002013-11-07T15:04:20.701+00:00An amazing post with some very honest and heartfel...An amazing post with some very honest and heartfelt responses. As a depression sufferer married to a depressive, I am lucky that our bad times rarely collide and we find our way through together but not everyone is so lucky. Just a hug and a kind word can make a huge difference. Forgive me for not being brave enough to tell you who I am xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-27031618867515182692013-11-07T14:25:36.356+00:002013-11-07T14:25:36.356+00:00I don't have any direct experience with suicid...I don't have any direct experience with suicide, but I can only imagine how hard it must be on the family and friends. <br />We need more campaigns which will make people aware that help is available before it is too late. Agata Pokutyckahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771885577683189168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-74838172982315978082013-11-07T13:54:56.865+00:002013-11-07T13:54:56.865+00:00We've got depression in our family too. People...We've got depression in our family too. People don't realise that clinical depression is an illness - an imbalance of the chemicals in the brain (hence the prescription of serotonin etc). It's not something you can always shake off on your own. Suicide is not a 'rational' act. Good post Mel. Linda Hobbishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16439116848663732420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-75049166218283712792013-11-07T13:39:40.576+00:002013-11-07T13:39:40.576+00:00Thank you for commenting Charlotte I really apprec...Thank you for commenting Charlotte I really appreciate it.Mellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-4799312642152145072013-11-07T13:38:14.102+00:002013-11-07T13:38:14.102+00:00Yes men don't seek help, it's not 'Mac...Yes men don't seek help, it's not 'Macho' to do so, it's so much harder than for women for them to talk about their feelings. <br /><br />Hugs Lynn xxxMellissa Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14774290943178155079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-370070932206896473.post-89286936886176602842013-11-07T13:31:57.376+00:002013-11-07T13:31:57.376+00:00Im so sorry to read this mel & other similar s...Im so sorry to read this mel & other similar stories on this post. I cant imagine what would make someone come to the conclusion that the only way out is to take their own life. I have members of my family that suffer from depression. Some have had remarks made to them that all they need to do is cheer up. Apart from that remark being unhelpful it also makes people less likely to open up & tell anyone when they do suffer from it. Its not a matter of cheering up. Being low & being depressed are to different things. Being depressed is a clinical issue & should be treated as such. If you know or live with someone who is clinically depressed all you can do is support them by letting them know that you don't judge them & you love them regardless. Tell them you love them often. Even by something as simple as a hug. Thank you mel for this blog post :) charlotte claviernoreply@blogger.com