Me and J 2012
When he was a child he had problems with his speech. He didn't say anything before the age of two. He had speech and language therapy to help him, although it seemed like a long journey at the time. I am a trained teacher and I have a lot of time for educational professionals however when he attended his first nursery school at the age of 2/12 he was told he would never attend mainstream school. The reason for this? He would not line up in the yard to go into class, and he would not put his hand up on the carpet to ask a question. He would get frustrated as he couldn't communicate well and sometime he would show his temper but we would never get physically aggressive. What did I do? Well I took him out of the nursery and placed him in a more relaxed playgroup and he seemed to flourish well. I have no strong religious beliefs although it was a Christian playgroup but have to say the kindness they showed us was amazing.
After my marriage broke up J had to get used to my partner M from the age of 3. The amount of times they argued when he was younger, once was over a Thomas The Tank Engine kite! We laugh about it now but it was a big adjustment for both of them at the time.
Wedding meal - Me and J aged 9
I have two proud moments I would like to tell you of. When I got married to M we had a meal for family and friends in the local restaurant. J was 9 at the time. After my husband's brother gave a speech J got up impromptu and said this "I would like to say I feel proud today. I am proud of my nanny, I am proud of my grandad and I am proud of my mum, but most of all I am proud of My stepdad M!" It touched me as he had obviously thought about it and even with his speech difficulties and through all their trials and tribulations he felt he wanted to say how much he was proud of his stepdad.
Another proud moment was when at the age of 11 he had his end of year prom. Looking proud as punch with his shirt and tie on, he appeared all grown up. The best feeling was when I received his SAT grades and he had all level 5 grades at the age of 11 (level 4 being a good grade). I am so glad I didn't believe the professionals at the age of 2 1/2.
J proud as punch - age 11 before his prom
So all you mums and dads, don't be afraid of questioning the professionals if you feel what they say isn't right, you know your children best. I am glad I did. If your child isn't ready to line up to go into class at the age of 2 1/2 it is not necessarily a bad thing. Think if the environment they are in is right for them.
This post is my entry in the Mellow Mummy "I Made This" competition.
I decided on this topic because
"I'm not the best at baking or knitting a jumper too,
When I made a Blue Peter advent calendar, I got covered all in glue.
I can't crochet or do applique,
And my embroidery is totally pants,
And the Tracey Island I made is now covered all in ants.
But one thing I have made ,
That has made me proud as can be,
Is my lovely Son J, I hope you do agree!"
I would like to tag my lovely friends in this competition.